Are You A Self-Saboteur?

Julia Clementson

Are you addicted to building a business or are you just afraid of successful? The latter sounds silly because who doesn’t want to be successful, right? Success is power. It’s the attainment of our most coveted achievements. But you’d be surprised by how many people are unaware of their own condition. It all starts with understanding what self-sabotage looks like.

First, how do you hold yourself accountable? Responsibility is the hallmark of maturity. When you are successful, it’s easy to accept the responsibility because you have the rewards. On the flip side, no one wants to be associated with their failures, so the blame will be shifted to other external entities. This can be as mild as blaming traffic for making you late when you really just hit the snooze button too many times, or it could be blaming someone else for your inability to complete a task. Extreme cases will have you blame external sources for unrelated consequences.

Over time, this allows you to nurture the untrue idea that your life is out of your hands. This sets you up for completely removing yourself as the architect of your own demise. You put yourself in situations that are doomed to breed failure, and this enables you to reinforce the narrative that you are not in control of your own life.


In business, this can mask itself as a complex where you are addicted to the climb. It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey. This keeps you moving in all directions so you never achieve any goals because there is no overarching aim. You have given yourself a never-ending task, so you focus on the details of attending to that rather than assess what you need to do to reach your real goals. You are ostensibly giving yourself work to do because real work (working towards a goal) is much harder; The stakes are higher because goals require a sacrifice, and failing at something you genuinely want is much harder to accept than losing something you aren’t enthusiastic about.

This is just a way to distract yourself because you do not want to face what’s really itching you. Getting yourself out of this vicious cycle starts with accepting responsibility for the things in your life. To be successful, you need to understand your strong points and your weak points. If it helps, make a list of your recent successes and failures. Use this to keep track of your progress by listing the factors that made you succeed or fall. Be honest with yourself because becoming accustomed to the feeling of responsibility will allow you to acknowledge how you can improve yourself.

A business is an organisation and for it to function properly, it needs to be insulated and impervious to the harshness of commerce. It is a process to build an organisation and while it is nearly impossible to build the perfect business, it is a process worth undertaking.

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